For me I am happy about my beginning stages of getting divorced.
Getting out of a marriage where you have been mentally & emotionally abused, where you are constantly being put down & blamed for everything, & where you have been controlled time the point that you became someone you don't know, is a relief!
It is a relief to me because I am starting to Find Myself, gaining my Independence, I am starting to see the happness & peace that I thought I never would see again. I am starting to find my new found Freedom!
While starting the beginning stages of divorce the most important thing for me is how it will affect my kids! Divorce can change a child just as it can change an adult, but as parents we have to plan ahead and make a plan to protect our kids from the "Battle Field" so to speak.
The best way to that is to have a conversation with your kids & ask them:
* Ask how they feel about what's happening?
* What are their concerns & fears?
* Is there anything that you can do to help or lesson their pain?
* Keep them out of the problems (arguments) your divorce.
* Keep them out of the graphic details or court proceedings (if any)
* Be sure to let them know while life maybe changing, your love for them is unconditional
* If you have child with the person you are divorcing, keep your kids involved with the visitation plans, & ask about their feelings & opinions the situation, because you don't want them to have anxiety, depression, or thoughts of running away, or even worse suicide.
Divorce isn't ALWAYS BAD! It is what you make of it! The most important thing about divorce is making sure that it doesn't change who your kids are, & it is important that they don't see or feel the bitterness, pain, anger, and sadness of what is going on in the divorce!
Since beginning my divorce, I am quickly starting to see the happiness & laughter in my kids. I am also starting to see the relationship between me and my kids are getting better! They are communicating with me more & I am starting to see the joy in them that I haven't seen in years!
