Divorce

  I am in the beginning stages of a divorce. As most of us have seen up close and personal, going through a divorce is extremely nasty & is never easy! 

  The scariest thing, for me, about the  beginning stages of divorce for me is:

* I worry about how it is going to affect my kids.

* I don't want to put them in the middle of the " Battle Field " so 2 speak.

* I want to make the right decisions so that this situation doesn't change who my kids are or who they become.

* Not letting the depression, hurt feelings, hateful words spoken that breaks not only your self esteem but also your spirit, emotional & mental abuse, & with the added emotions that you begin to feel that you never knew you had; I am scared that it will change who I am as a person.

  It's almost impossible to hold on to who you are while going through this life change that is meant to shatter you and break you down to the point that you don't even recognize your damn self. 

 What I am about to say is a little off topic, but stay with me bc it has a purpose.

   I have been through many things in my life that most people don't go through in a life time. (Which I will elaborate on later). I victim card. 

  Ever since I was a child, around age 7, while surviving many victim situations, I made the decision to become not only the survivor, but to also find the lesson in the experience! 

  Before I became a mother, I made the decision to be a better mother to my kids than my mom was to me! 

  Being a better mother than what I had, included:

* BEING THE BEST MOM THAT I CAN BE REGUARLESS OF WHAT SITUATION I AM IN

*ALWAYS IS, HAS BEEN, AND WILL BE:
DOING WHAT'S BEST 4 MY KIDS

* learning from my mom's mistakes & my own mistakes

* taking advise from older people

* Informing & teaching my kids about the life situations that they will face

* Reflecting on my life experiences, acknowledging what I could have done differently for a better outcome

* Most importantly, I have to be strong, & be able to lead by example

 To those of you who are wondering, " What does this have to do with going through a divorce?" 

  Here's my " ? " to you? 

 * Most Important ? ;
What can I do to make this situation PAINLESS 4 MY KIDS

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* What will you learn about this process that will make you a stronger person?

* What did you learn from your experience?

* What advise can you give your kids  on how to heal & deal with divorce?

* Ask  yourself: " If you're kids were going through a divorce, did you handle the situation how you would want them to? "