As we all know divorce isn't fair to anyone. In most cases the kids suffer the most when parents can't get along.
I have 3 kids, 2 boys ages 17 & 18, & a daughter that will be 16 in August.
Even though the guy I am married to is not biologically my kids Dad, I have always told my kids that their relationship with my soon to be ex-husband has nothing to do with my relationship with them, & I let them know that it is their choice if they want to see him & spend time with him.
Just because my marriage is ending with my ex-husband, that doesn't change the relationship that he had with my kids.
Reguardless of what I am going through @ any point of my life,
I AM A M💞THER 1ST!
BEING A M💞M IS MY MOST IMPORTANT JOB & NO MATTER HOW OLD MY KIDS ARE & EVEN WHEN THEY ARE GROWN, I WILL ALWAYS DO WHAT IS BEST 4 THEM!!!!
With that being said, my soon to be ex-husband refuses to leave my trailer. When he gets in his moods, where he walks around mopping up his fat girl feelings off the floor, bc he doesn't know how to let go, he often starts arguments.
For example:
He will ask me a ?, then bitch @ me because I am trying to answer it.
Or he will ask me a ?, knowing that I am gonna answer honestly & he knows that he can't handle the truth!
After a while of listening to him (my soon 2 be ex-husband) rant & rave on a daily basis about how bad I hurt him, how much I treat him like crap, how I am such a shitty person, & literally having him tell me "I'm gonna kill myself & when I do it's gonna be all your fault!" Not to mention when he gets in these moods he curses me.
I literally can't take him mentally & emotionally abuse me, not even for one more day. My kids don't deserve to hear him talk to their Mom like that & they don't even need to know about how bad he talks to me & disrespects me.
With that being said:
I am a M💞THER 1st & I have to do what is best for my kids. Me & my soon 2 be ex-husband literally constantly fighting & arguing IS NOT WHAT'S BEST 4 MY KIDS!
So, me being the M💞THER that I am, although it's not fair to me that I have to be the one to leave my own home where I pay all the bills by myself, I have to leave because that's what is best for my kids!
I ABSOLUTELY HATE THE FACT THAT I AM LITERALLY BEING BULLIED OUT OF MY OWN HOME!!!!
My soon to be ex-husband refuses to leave my home & since I can't literally physically put him out, I am the one who has to be homeless & stay at a homeless shelter.
Because of him abusing me & threatening me, a judge granted me a restraining order against him. I called the police everyday for over a month & nothing was done about him stalking me or violating his restraining order.
So, in order to do what is best for my kids when my ex is refusing to leave, I am the one that has literally been bullied out of my own home & in2 a homeless shelter because I refuse to let him hurt my kids by abusing me!
As I said before I am a M💞 THER 1st & in my case it is better that I leave & stay @ a homeless shelter than for my daughter to grow up thinking that it's okay for a man to treat her like crap & abuse her, & my son thinking that it's ok for a man to treat a woman bad, curse her out, it it disrespect her.
In a way, I am showing my kids that it is:
NOT OKAY 2 ACCEPT ABUSE, DISRESPECT, LET ANYBODY CONTROL YOU, OR HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR EMOTIONS!!!!!
IT IS NOT OKAY TO LET ABUSE TO CONTINUE AROUND YOUR CHILDREN!!!!
IT IS NOT OKAY TO FIGHT & ARGUE AROUND OR IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS BECAUSE IT CHANGES WHO THEY ARE & WHO THEY WILL BECOME!!!!!
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